Let’s Talk About The “F” Word
Good day friends! Can you believe the month of February is almost over? Time truly does fly, and although I haven’t been as prompt with my “weekly” blog, I have been working hard to bring you stuff that I believe will keep you motivated and encouraged. I truly hope you are taking a look at my interviews with Ordinary People who Show Extraordinary Grit!
Tonight I will be interviewing Benjamin Hinton. Ben has overcome so much in his life including the loss of vision in his right eye and a very serious Traumatic Brain Injury, but he continues to inspire so many people with his positive attitude. I am really excited to share this interview with you!
This brings me to my subject this week, the “F” word! People like Ben stare down the “F” word on a daily basis, and they forbid the “F” word from being used around them! This is a four letter word that unfortunately, controls so many people, and prevents so many from doing things…that word is FEAR! Fear is one of the most dangerous and damaging words in our vocabulary. Many people let fear control their lives. They allow fear to dictate what they do, what they try, and where they go! We all experience fear in our lives, hell, I am fearful of heights, and I get all sweaty and unstable when I am on a bridge, or even a fishing dock that doesn’t have a railing. This is real fear; not sure where it came from, but it is real. I could completely avoid situations where I am “on the edge,” but instead, I take all opportunities to face that fear head on. I have rappelled off a 125 foot sheer cliff, I have stood on the edge of a canyon, and I always challenge my fear when I have a chance! It doesn’t mean I no longer fear heights, but every time I face that fear, I feel stronger and stronger, and less fearful!
Eleanor Roosevelt said “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ This is so true! The problem is that many people will never even try, they let fear win by default. Your fear can be any number of things, but let me focus on some of the things I have highlighted in my Ordinary People series. Jeri, who is legally blind, could have let her fear of losing her vision keep her from moving forward with her life plan, but instead, she took the chance, she faced that fear! Kayla, who suffers from schizophrenia, faces fears every single day, and sometimes it is overwhelming, but instead of quitting and giving up, she keeps moving forward and slaps fear down! You will also see with today’s interview that Benjamin does the same as he faces his setbacks.
Dale Carnegie says, “If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” You will never overcome your fears unless you try. What is the biggest reason we don’t face our fears? When we talk about things that can positively change our lives, it is the fear of failing! Nobody wants to fail, me included, but if you never try, if you never face that fear, you will never know! You will then have to live with the regret and questioning that goes with not facing your fears! Many of my greatest life lessons came from failures!
My challenge to you is to focus on small things first. When I first lost the feeling and full use of my lower left leg, every time I would exert myself through exercise or even just working around our property, I would suffer excruciating cramps; cramps that would bring me to tears. I truly feared those cramps, and I feared the pain that came with them. I could have chosen to simply avoid the activities that resulted in the cramping, but instead, I found ways to mitigate the symptoms and still do what I loved. Don’t give up! Don’t let fear keep you from taking the first step; maybe a new job, maybe a relationship, maybe going back to school – could be anything!
There are so many terrible four letter words out there, but the one that can truly hurt you the most is FEAR! Face your fears, don’t have regrets, take a chance, and remember, you have people around you who are there to support and encourage you! Until next time, let me leave you with one more quote from Nelson Mandela, “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
I hope you are able to continue facing and conquering your fears – you’ve got this!